The Abusive Mentality

His Attitude is "You OWE Me".

He manages to twist everything around so it is "My Fault".

I feel suffocated by his actions, he is trying to run my life.

"Chronic Mistreatment gets people to doubt themselves" She says OH maybe I should have done that or I shouldn't have said that.



Abused women need a counselor

- to regain trust in her self,

- to get her to rely on her own perceptions

- to listen to her own internal voice

- need support & encouragement to hold on to her own self



YOUR abusive partner wants to deny you that experience. He wants to pluck your view of reality out of your head and replace it with his. When someone has invaded your identify in this way enough times, you naturally start to lose your balance. But you can find your way back to "CENTER". If you can get someone to talk to you can trust and has been in a abusive life like I and you.



He is controlling

Decision Making "you are dumb when it comes to Money" he tells me.

Screaming so loud his eyes are bulging out, his vein in his neck are popping out, there is a ugly sneering look on the bastards red face and waging his finger His statement is: I Let you take care of things when we first moved here. I had to take it back cause you were letting things slip.

If his control and authority is slipping, I/he has the right to take steps to reestablish the rule of my will, including abuse.



Personal Freedom;

An abusive man considers it his right to control his partner in regard to:

- to where she goes

- who she associates with family, friends

- what she wears

- when she needs to be home



This control is exercised through wearing me-you down with constant low level Complaints like:

your cooking is not good

you are a lousy mother

house is dirty

you take to long of a shower

you laugh to loud

you are fat

when I speak you interrupt me, screaming now you made me forget what I was going to say.

PICK PICK at everything until I am picked apart and there is nothing left of me



IS THIS MAN OR ANIMAL THINKING DISTORTED. NO SHIT.

A mans partner is not his slave or property and he grants her freedoms.

But his rules make sense to him and he will fight to hang on to those sick rules.

This bastard truley thinks he is right, how sad. This is still my life.
How can I get away, I know he will never quit this behavior, his life is to good.
Just think having your own personal SLAVE.