MYTH: He has a violent, explosive personality. He needs to learn to be less explosive.
Responce: Why and how can he be so nice to other people, but he treats her "the person he LOVES" like dirt.
If this man had a aggressive personality he wouldn't be able to reserve that side of himself just for you.
The sad reality is plenty of gentle sensitive men are viciously and at time violently abusive to there female partners.
The 2 sided nature of the abuser is a mystery.
INTIMIDATION
Men who intimidates people routinely, WATCH OUT, you will be next on his list. At first it may make you feel "safe" to be with a man who frightens people, but not when your turn comes.
AND YOUR TURN WILL COME, MINE DID MORE THAN ONCE.
To keep you scared is to keep there, to keep yu under his control.
RULES OF AN ABUSER
An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unaceptable in short, an abusers core problems is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong. Example may be punching and kicking in the ribs is not OK, but slapping and throwing her against the wall is OK.
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